You can have soul contracts with many different people throughout your life, some that you may still know such as your family members, there will be some that were or will be only in your life for a short time.
A soul contract is an agreement made between two souls during a certain lifetime. The agreement is on how they can help each other in their next life, it’s based on lessons that the souls need to learn and they make a promise to help each other teaching them how to deal with a particular situation.
Sometimes you can feel like you’ve met someone before, or feel like you already know someone that you’ve just met.
A soul contract is not necessarily a love relationship, it can also be a mother, father, sister, brother, friend or work colleague, whatever the relationship it does not have to be for life. That person may only be in your life for the time that it takes for you to learn your lesson. When the life lesson was learnt the soul contract was achieved.
Soul contracts in love.
The most common one is often known as a ‘twin flame’ relationship, this is the one that burns and hurts the most, here the painful lessons are learnt.
Soul Mate relationships are more solid, respectful and long-term; they would have been bound as a soul contract. These souls would have made an agreement or a promise to each other love each other and fulfil each other’s needs eternally be happy together.
With this agreement may come lessons, perhaps learning boundaries or learning to be in a relationship where there is mutual self-respect.
Sum up romantic relationships
A soul contract can often have a ‘meant to be’ feel or it can feel like you have met that person before
Are made as an agreement to teach you lessons
Soul contracts are sometimes renegotiated behind the scenes if situations in your life have changed from outside influences
Are made to enable us to help each other so we can grow spiritually.
Soul contracts in work
A soul contract between work colleagues may be something like; working with someone very difficult to see eye to eye with and they would never listen to your opinion.
Working with a boss who was a bully or who showed no respect for your skills. Your contract with this person may have been to not take unfair criticism, to not be bullied or for them to learn to listen to and respect other’s opinions.
Soul contracts in family
A family soul contract is concentrated from the first day of existence. A soul contract say between a mother and a child, could be that the mother will teach the child to be independent, eventually to be a strong adult and responsible for their own choices as they go through life.
The agreement from the child to the mother could be that they have taught them unconditional love, but it could also be that later in life, they teach them to develop strengths to their weaknesses.
It only takes one person who gives you unconditional love to show you that you can do something or to make an important decision, take a leap of faith and trust in yourself.
Soul contracts often have emotional characteristics, whether good or bad.
Life lessons
Remember, that a soul contract is an agreement that was made between you and another person before you were both born. If you have learnt some important lessons in your life, you can guarantee that they came to you through the soul contract you made with that person.
The lessons are not just for you; you would have also taught that person the lesson they wanted or needed to learn.
Soul contracts are an invisible choice that we make as our souls transcend through our many lives, each agreement is made to fine tune our higher selves.
They are to learn the act of forgiveness; someone must take the responsibility to deeply hurt you, giving you the choice to either forgive them or stay resentful.
To know how to be independent and strong, someone must ensure they abandon you at your worst hour, the lesson is to either stand up for yourself or fall and succumb to your circumstances.
So, everyone you meet has signed up to help your soul’s evolution and you have signed up too, to deal with them, yes even the annoying ones.
By knowing that everything is an elaborate play, you can allow yourself to grow. We don’t need to try to rationalize someone’s behaviour, and our pain should guide us not make us feel helpless.
This process is called Ascension, as the name itself suggests it is ascending or rising above the current state. The more you move up the ladder, the bigger a picture you’re able to see of your life.
You become detached, but much more loving towards yourself and everyone, as you begin to see that we’ve all decided to do this together to build each other up even if it means, ironically, breaking each other down sometimes.
There are some lessons you have already mastered in the past, and there are others that will come to you when it’s your time.
Have you ever felt like your parents or someone much older than you were acting immature and you’re the one parenting them?
That’s because souls have different maturity levels, don’t be fooled by the human relationship or age, your soul has taken many lifespans.
Then comes the role of the Universe it’s going to test you, once you believe that you’ve truly integrated a value into your life, the Universe is going to put forward a few more scenarios in your soul contracts, where you must display your recently acquired skill.
If you haven’t learned correctly, you may respond like an older version of yourself would have.
If you respond differently then you have made progress.
So, if you pass the test, the lesson is complete. Even if something reoccurs, it won’t have power over you, and you will feel the freedom and transformation taking place. If you don’t succeed, you will try again and see where you fell short.
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They also include vows, I do, I will never leave you, it’s a vow, I never do this again if you were taking it lightly then it’s lightly disbursed the more intense you made the vow the more intense the vow is.
Financial care for children, if you didn’t provide for your kids because you didn’t like the mother or father any more, you won’t get past your dues it will come back, it’s sitting there in your energy field.
Your kids may be done with you, they can feel it’s what they expected as you were probably not a nice person, but you will have to come back and do it again with someone else’s kids to work that out,
Being impeccable with your words, making agreements to meet someone for dinner or coffee and you know you will never do it, these are called energy leaks that can lead us to become drained.
We even have financial leaks have a look at where you have energy leaks or energy drains in your life.
Souls as friends, there’s a comfortable feeling that you know them, how do you know this it’s because you have an infinity with the person, maybe for me it’s the people that like deep subjects that have a deeper calling, we are not pursuing these things by accident they are familiar because you have done this before.
Just because you have a connection to someone it doesn’t mean you have to be in each other’s life forever, you can even finish each other’s sentences.
What if you were in prison together in another lifetime and that’s how you got to know each other.
Think it through before you decide to enter into anything.
Or it can be an event in your life, ask yourself if there’s anything about it you could have changed, would you change it?
I’m not saying it was good but did you learn a lesson from it? After a time can you see what good if any came from it.
When you’re done
Learn to ask what do I get from this, would I do this again, i.e. family members, think about your response because that’s another contract.
Are you different from them have you made better or different choices because of it, you can say I’m done, I learnt what I needed from it, but I’m done, then you more than likely learnt your lesson and won’t need to repeat it.
If your response comes from an emotional place then you’re more than likely not done.
If you think about times when you needed them or needed support and when you asked they spoke more about themselves rather than assisting you and you recognise this then you are probably done.
Repeating contracts, if you say, I never want to attract anyone like them again, and you put a lot of emotion into it, and then guess what, you will get another just to see if you are done.
You have to heal and complete it to have the contacts to be complete.
How we heal contracts is by forgiveness, when you forgive then you give yourself permission to leave it and everyone else can heal, but not if you still have stuff attached to it.
Responsibility, take responsibility for some of your actions, which lead to the actions of other people, because others can’t enter your space without a contact that’s not how it works.
I cover this subject in my healing work, sometimes we have to change the contract and sometimes we sever the contract, especially when it relates to family members.
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